I came
across this post and I thought of sharing it since there is a bit of relevance
to what is actually happening in these present times we are in now.
There are an
endless amount of characters in the workplace.
There’s the lady you find in the break room, always on a diet and
commenting on your weight (God help you if you are proportionate, she will eat
you alive). The guy who shows off way too many baby pictures of his not-that-cute-kid.
The girl who stays in her office with the door shut, even during fire drills.
And the dreaded over-talker who never gets the hint (which might explain why
that one girl stays in her office).
We all play roles in our workplaces, many of which are unique to
only our office. But there’s a standard cast of characters as well. You can
find varieties of them anywhere you go, but they all share the same skill sets.
They are the ones who will succeed and the ones who will fail.
In lieu of filling you with fluffy “this is what a successful
person looks like” talk, I thought I’d take the opposite route. The following
is a list of people who stand out for all the wrong reasons. Fair warning: If
you don’t know who this person is at your office, it might be you.
The Gullible One.
If I’ve learned anything over the years, it’s that you should
never believe everything a company says. Don’t believe them when they say they
don’t expect layoffs (the mere mention of that word suggests they’re on the way).
Don’t believe that they’ve offered you the highest salary they can. Don’t
believe them when they say they can’t negotiate your raise. And definitely
don’t believe them when they say “this year has been really bad, but next year
you’re going to get hooked up on that promotion you want!”
When a boss, HR rep or recruiter (or anyone playing a role in your
career and financial success) states something that makes you tilt your head to
the side and think “huh…that seems sketch,” don’t just accept it.
As I’ve said before, the car dealer will act like he can’t budge
on a number. But if you stand up and start walking to the door he’ll
automatically find a discount for you. Companies are in it for the bottom line
even when they’re negotiating things with their employees. They want to
encourage you to stick around while also finding a way to save money. And it
saves them money to give you a smaller raise, to skip a round of promotions, to
make you work through Christmas. Don’t fall for it.
The Groupthinker.
Groupthink is a psychological problem that runs rampant in
workplaces. Even more if you’ve got a large population of “longtermers” in a
corporation. Groupthink is why technology isn’t updated, why policies are
outdated, why there’s no new blood (or ideas) on a team, why you hear the
sentence “you can’t do that, that’s not how we’ve always done it!”
It’s easy to spot these people, especially if you’re new to a
company. They sit in clumps together and they make bizarre statements in
meetings, they do the same things every day and they complain when their life
is disrupted by something (or someone) new.
If you fight against a mass of groupthinkers, you run a high risk
of failure, persecution, derailment and tons of frustration. But if you engage
and join them, you will become stupid and possibly unmarketable for your next
career jump. Take your pick.
The Fearful One.
People do ridiculous things when they’re scared. Just ask anyone
who’s died in a horror movie (I mean, who drops the phone and runs up the
stairs?!).
Fearful people will cause you serious amounts of trouble at work.
If they’re scared of getting fired, they will find a way to point a finger at
you. If their project is failing, they will suggest your role was to blame.
Drowning people will grab whatever they can to keep their head above water.
Don’t stand too close and become that object.
And don’t become the drowning person. If you ever feel worried
about something at work, you sense something bad coming your way or you screw
up big time, avoid the fear by taking some action. Talk to someone, your boss,
your mentor or a peer to get information that will quell your fears. Or fess up
and find out immediately what repercussions are headed your way for the
screw-up so you’re not worried about the unknowns. Do whatever you need to do
in order to avoid becoming the fearful one.
Apathetic Guy.
The other day, a friend of mine posted a message on Facebook stating her frustration that people keep calling
her upcoming maternity leave a “vacation.” She mentioned a litany of things
that have to be done while you’re on maternity leave (none of it sounded
remotely vacation’ish). She referenced this because she felt judged and
persecuted for her decision to take the time off.
Consider now the single person. If you haven’t been in this demo
for a while, you might not be aware of this, but single people are also victims
of workplace apathy. I’ve actually heard the sentence, “You can stay late
tonight to finish this, right? I gotta get out of here and it’s not like you’re
going home to a family.”
Hashtag awkward.
Everyone is dealing with something. Everyone feels judged and
misunderstood every once in a while. And everyone feels the sting from these
moments. Show some compassion even when you’re having trouble putting yourself
in their shoes.
Don’t be the apathetic coworker. The grass isn’t always greener,
even though it may appear so.
The Sore Loser.
Anytime you’re successful or experience something great in life or
your career, I guarantee you that someone somewhere will doubt that you earned
it the good ‘ol hard-working way. That someone somewhere is the sore loser.
A sore loser will think you got that deal because you’ve got an
important last name. Or that you were hired because your Mom sits in the corner
office. Or that you simply got lucky (literally and figuratively).
You can’t stop a sore loser from thinking what they want and you
can’t convince them out of their opinion. The only way to battle a sore loser
is to make sure they’re not right (it might surprise some of you ladies that
yes, business can indeed be conducted outside the bedroom!).
Update: It’s been called to my
attention by several female readers that the comment above was offensive and
diminishes the hard-earned success of females in the workplace. I realize now
it was a poor example and misrepresented the very reason I have this column. It
wasn’t my goal to suggest that women are perpetuating a Mad Men-era stereotype
and that men are absolved of their roles in these scenarios. While it exists,
this in fact is NOT a common problem in the workplace. I mentioned it as merely
a side note to emphasize the importance in making sure “Sore Losers” are not
making accurate accusations by carrying yourself properly in the workplace.
Use your connections and your network to get ahead, but do your
own dang work. Show results. Then the sore losers will disappear one by one.
Malicious Gossiper.
There’s harmless gossip and then there’s malicious gossip.
Harmless gossip is…harmless. But you must avoid the malicious gossiper
completely. In fact, put large amounts of space between you and this person.
Assume that since they’re willing to share really bad information
with you, they’re sharing it with other people. They’re kind of like the flu.
If you run across a malicious gossiper and they start talking,
whatever you do, don’t agree with them. Because the next thing you
know, your sentence of “Oh, I agree with you – I bet she totally slept with
that guy to get that job” will be shortened to “So and so just told me that so
and so slept with so and so!” And voila, you’re screwed.
The Apologizer.
I recently attended an event where several startups were invited
to pitch. One woman stood up to sell her idea to a room undoubtedly full of
millions, a big opportunity for a small company. She looked sharp and ready.
But then she opened with, “Don’t worry, this isn’t a crappy website that does
blah…”
Well shoot. For the remainder of her presentation, I assumed her
website was crappy.
The Apologizer will discredit themselves as soon as they open
their mouth. They will start a presentation with qualifying statements like the
one above or they will ask for a raise by saying, “I know we don’t have a lot
of money, but…” They lose these deals because they show a massive lack of
confidence in the statement, regardless of topic.
You don’t necessarily have to avoid this person. Just don’t be this person.
The company pays you a salary because they think you’re worth it. You have
every right to be in the room and to be having that conversation right then.
Why act like you don’t belong there?
Repeat the following statement as many times as you need to before
you have an important conversation or make a presentation: Be confident, not cocky.
Then own the heck out of it. Your career depends on it.
Source: https://www.forbes.com/sites/glassheel/2013/09/18/the-7-people-who-never-succeed-at-work/#55ae9a361113
